It’s Not Selfish – It’s About Self Care

Self care

Self-care certainly doesn’t make you a selfish person. Sometimes I sit here and I think to myself… imagine what it would like to have my own home; imagine what it would be like to travel; imagine what it would be like to feel free and enjoy the most of what life has to offer.

If I’m not worrying about finding a job, I’m worrying about money. And then I go around in circles from there. I’ve felt embarrassed about my current situation; however I just wanted to feel healthier and happier.

I want to be able to explore more and see what more I am capable of. I want to reach higher goals and see different environments. Do you think this makes me a selfish person? I hope not.

I go on holiday in May and I cannot wait to just let go of all the thoughts in my mind and release. I want to feel the sea breeze over my shoulders, paddle through the sea and splash around like a child, and be able to experience the carefree side of me to the full.

Portugal 2016

I am one of those people who feel highly pressured when certain situations arise. Whether it’s trying something new or getting close to gaining a new opportunity. If I don’t make it, I sometimes feel like I’ve failed people or disappointed them because that’s not what they expected.

I prefer when I feel a lot stronger in the way that, when I don’t quite make it, I still know that I can. I try to tell myself that this doesn’t have to involve being what someone wants me to be, or be in a place where someone expects me to be. I can’t conform to others beliefs and attitudes of where I need to be right now in my life. I think really, anyone can be wherever they want to be.

If you’re happy and you’re trying to make the best life for you then do it. This is one of the reasons why I’m open to new opportunities, exploring new horizons, and seeing what can become of it.

Obviously, there can be boundaries when we consider what’s realistic. But I mean, in order to reach those bigger goals I need to be in a place where new challenges gives me a certain sense of optimism in order to pursue them.


Occasionally, I feel like I’m a big cluster of worry. I feel to tense up when certain situations approach me. I know I am independent and there are many obstacles that I can conquer. For example, I love to be organised and prepared. Situations where I cannot be and show my full potential stresses me out. I know I can only do my best; but there’s something that’ll tell me otherwise.

On the other hand, I do feel like as I’ve gotten older, I’ve handled sudden confrontations a lot better than I used to. My confidence has grown in so many ways. I’ve trained people in the workplace before I even realised how much knowledge I have. I’ve surprised myself at how I will communicate in another language without even thinking about. Often, I think I have forgotten how to do something, when actually, it’s stuck in my mind all along, even if I do or do not use it regularly.

I think if we are motivated and take each day as it comes we can always be young and free no matter what age we are. I can skip down the street and so can you. I can sing my way through the day, and again, so can you. Of course, if you’re in a meeting, or a professional environment, you might want to save this one for when you’re at home.

Show them your strong potential but never lose yourself in the process.


Just because something sounds good doesn’t mean it’s for you. Always do what’s best for you. Some of us have short-term goals, others have long-term goals, and others like to have a mixture of the two. Take on what you think you can and don’t be afraid of showing others what’s really best for you.

When it comes down to it, you can enjoy what life has to offer when you take your own path and do the things you enjoy the most, gaining what you want to get out of life.

Capture your own happiness.

6 thoughts on “It’s Not Selfish – It’s About Self Care

  1. Enjoyed reading this! I too tend to get worried about life, sometimes a little bit too worried actually..and I’m also going on holiday soon just like you so hopefully it will take my mind off things! Really hope it does the same to you! xx

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