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A Message to All of the Bullies Out There

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No one likes bullies. Its concerning when we see those people in the world who think they can use someone’s weakness to make them seem more powerful. And that’s the key word here, seem

We should treat eachother fairly

Why do bullies think it is okay to treat someone different because of their skin colour, hair colour, disability etc.? Does it make you feel powerful?

I will never understand why people thrive from bringing others down. Why do they try to make people like them, or ask them to do things they’re not comfortable with.

Physical, verbal, social, and cyber bullying, it’s all forms. And they are all as bad as each other affecting each individual in a different way.

If you’re in the gym, why do you think its okay to laugh at someone who weighs more than you. They are trying to work-out just like you. What are you trying to achieve? We are all different shapes and sizes.

If someone has spots or wears a brace, why do you think it’s okay to give them nicknames? You think it’s really funny don’t you? But what if you were the one who had those things, how would you feel?

Just because you might be more popular than him or her, it doesn’t give you the right to belittle people. Just because you think you’re better than him or her doesn’t mean that you actually are. In fact, you’re a bully that’s what you are.

Bullies

The Oxford dictionary describes a bully as,

A person who uses strength or influence to harm or intimidate those who are weaker.

To a certain extent I agree. I think people use their strength to intimidate others. They must be the weak ones for the thought to pass to bully someone.

I’ve been bullied and I definitely came out stronger. I was scared to walk around the corner to by next class because there they would be, approaching with their looks, comments and throwing things at me.

When I went online (in the days of MSN) I received messages whilst I was offline. One said ‘Erw you’re ugly’ in use of other words.

Here’s my reply: I think your personality is ugly.

I was too scared to speak up and felt embarrassed to say something back because they would just laugh anyway. I remember when it was a couple of years later and we had our end of year sports day.

People were cheering me on. Most of them were oblivious to what had gone on. It made me realise that bullies get bored once they see that you aren’t bothered about their opinions anymore.

The girl in the corner

No longer did I want to be that girl who sat in the corner of the classroom worrying about what will happen next.

I was the type of girl who wanted to go to school and do my work. That’s all I ever wanted to do. Making friends in the process made it a whole lot easier. But achieving my grades was the most important thing for me. People would call me a geek as a joke but I didn’t mind. It’s when comments become more personal that you start to feel so low about yourself.

There’s so much superiority in the world. I’ve worked with so many different types of people – teachers, students, councillors, governors, and I’ve never changed who I am in front of either of them. They’re all people. I’ve given an equal amount of respect regardless of their status.

Don’t feel powerless

Just because someone’s older than you, has more ‘life’ experience, does not give them the right to undermine you.

I’ve been a lot stronger now as a woman than I was as a teenager. I’m glad to have experienced what I did back then. I will never let anyone overpower me again. My confidence and strength is still growing but I am a lot tougher than I used to be.

Here’s the message

Surround yourself with people who want to get that essay finished; who listen to your views in the workplace; and want to be around you simply because you’re you.

The greatest thing I’ve learnt through being bullied is that, it’s okay to cry and it’s even more okay to share your experience with others. Change isn’t going to happen until you speak to someone.

A 3-year-old can experience bullying and so can a 53-year-old. Let your strength shine and show the bullies that they’re not worth it.

Author: Natasha Bolger

Creator of Natasha Bolger Media.

7 Comments on “A Message to All of the Bullies Out There

  1. I’m thrilled! say no to bullying is the word! I’ve been particularly interesting in these topics and have written and spoken about it on occasions, and it’s good to see things from your angle. you beautifully wrote this one I must say. I wrote a post recently addressing the issue of verbal bullying and I would love for you and everyone else to check it out and tell me what you think http://truthzombie.com/2017/07/04/your-opinion-does-not-matter/
    p:s- I would love to keep in touch and connect with a great mind like yours

  2. You make a great point that it is the bullies that are the weak ones.. and in that regard I tend to divert from the Oxford Dictionary. As Ellen says, let’s be kind to one another ♥

  3. Fantastic Tasha, you have a great perspective on this matter as I know it’s close to both of our hearts xx

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