Do you ever get a fear of rejection? Yesterday I spoke with Catherine about inner child-like qualities and underestimating ourselves. She wonders why some people grow up and become adults and others never quite make it…
Catherine’s fear of rejection
Most of Catherine’s friends are younger than her. She doesn’t feel like she’s too immature. Although she said, I am at times. Personally, as someone who knows Catherine, she has many wonderful qualities. I admire the love she has for her family and friends. She always wants them to be happy. And being herself is exactly what makes us happy. She is one of the bubbliest people I know and can uplift the mood as soon as she enters the room.
Catherine’s thoughts lead to worry if her actions are holding her back. As professional as she can be, she wonders if it’s down to her young ways that she is being held back. Having worked in retail for years, Catherine has been told that she can be a leader as a manager. However, having a phobia of progressing and trying new could possibly be holding her back from trying such new opportunities.
Just a silly feeling
There are times in work when Catherine feels as though she is the only one who does particular things. For example, she explained that, anyone can walk behind the tills and not do what I do. I’m just silly sometimes. Well, aren’t we all? If I counted the amount of times I’ve done the silliest things in public, you would be here forever!
Catherine considers herself to have a fear of rejection. Sometimes this feeling can come from what people expect us to be rather than what we really want to be. We live in a world where there are so many expectations. And there are people in the world that we feel the need to compare ourselves to.
Different stages of our lives
This really made me think about the times where I have had a fear of rejection at different stages of my life. I had a fear that I would be rejected by certain girls in high school. It turns out I was right to have believed I was never going to be part of the crowd. A particular group of girls were who I experienced many encounters of bullying from.
However, there can be times when our fear of rejection is holding us back from the good things that can happen. You just need to hold on and believe that you’re deserving of it. Mostly, believing in yourself that you’re good enough. I always struggled to believe that I was good enough for Daniel and look at us now. I struggled to believe that I wouldn’t ever gain the media/writing experience I have. In the end, you want to be able to look at yourself and say, you’re not going to stop me.
Beat that fear of rejection and show it where to go!
The people we associate ourselves with can have an influence on our actions. Catherine said that she has always steered towards younger people. Growing up, her younger sister’s (Carol) friends were her friends. There is a one year difference between Carol and Catherine, Catherine being the eldest. But she struggles to understand how her and Carol’s mind sets are so different.
Dream, believe, achieve
These things do not define our professionalism or independence. In my eyes, being a little more light hearted and fun is the best way to be. Of course, you know when to take life seriously but there’s no harm in being who you are. If people can’t accept it or judge you, that’s their problem. I’ve learnt that we shouldn’t let people’s perceptions bother us too much. It’s been such a difficult thing for me to do so I can understand that Catherine has these feelings.
Expressing her feelings further she said, when I try to act differently I offend people. Truth is, some people are always going to be offended by smaller things. Whereas others will have a bigger tolerance of hearing the other meaning of phrases.
Catherine – remember that saying you like the sound of, Dream, believe, achieve! That’s exactly what you should do. I think the biggest hurdle for you is to believe. You’re an outgoing person. You’ve dealt with things other people haven’t, regardless if you believe you handled them in the right or wrong way. You definitely have a big heart and that’s much more important than taking on the worry of offending people. See what you’ve done already – you’ve taught me something here.
Catherine knows where her responsibilities lie, she has always loved and cared for her children, and she’s always worked to provide for her family. If I was Catherine, I would be so proud. I believe she’s a strong person. We’ve all had emotional downfalls – some of which show their emotions more openly than others.
Thank you, Catherine
I would like to say thank you to Catherine for opening up about her feelings and listening to me. I felt a sense of relief after talking to her yesterday. I discussed things that had been on my mind recently. I’ve had a tendency to worry about what people think far too much.
This immediately made me look at my boyfriend and say, who does this remind you of when they worry? Without hesitation he said, you. Let’s try to show 2017 and the rest of years to come that we’ve got what it takes to not let people undermine us. Regardless of child-like manners or embarrassments, you should be yourself.
By the way Catherine, you have made it. And all of your children believe it too especially as Cameron said yes to you being immature but then made a joke about it whilst Ellie said, no I think you’re fun. And that’s because you most certainly are. I genuinely believe that it’s your personality trait and nothing more to worry about whatsoever.
Carry on being fun and being you – it’s the Catherine we all know and love.