There is so much material in this world which reinforces us to believe that we should idolise someone and want to be like them. To what extent is this going too far? There needs to be more self-love reinforcement of who we are. Not somebody else.
Rather than focusing on what you want to be, you can take the time to focus on who you are today. Think about your strengths and weaknesses. Throughout all of your experiences and endeavours, remember that the truest person to be is yourself.
With the media, as well as people around us, can from time-to-time make us envy a person about how flawless they may constantly look, or because of how they always seem to have everything in place. Sometimes, you think you want to be like a certain person and you want to travel all of the journeys that your friend or someone you may know/not know has.
Why should you follow someone else’s dream?
You have the opportunity to make your own life. You are able to distinguish the things you enjoy to those which you dislike. This also enables you to take the ones which you dislike to do over again if you think it could have an impact on your life which could possibly make you stronger, whether it be physically or emotionally.
When I was younger I always wanted to be Baby Spice from the Spice Girls. I loved her blonde hair, her voice, her dress sense, and I always thought she was so pretty and funny. My mum even dressed me up as her on our first family holiday to Tenerife for a competition. I danced and sang every minute on the dance floor and just for that hour or so on stage, I was living like Baby Spice.
It did not concern me that I didn’t have the other members there or that I was living in my own world. I was happy. I used to love having my hair in piggy tails, especially as I had natural blonde hair at the time.
Wannabe Baby Spice
One of my favourite t-shirts was this white one with SPICE written across it in pink. Whenever I see Emma Bunton on television, I often reminisce about these kind of childhood memories. But then I think again that, everyone has their own life no matter what character they portray in a film, programme etc.
As you grow up, you see that people wish to attain bigger hopes and ambitions. I still see female celebrities on television, Instagram, Twitter etc. and think “Wow. Imagine if I looked like that. Flawless hair and skin. Amazing life. Etc.”
Then I think, we all come from somewhere. Not all of us start at the top. We start at the bottom and rise to success. And my biggest thought is that, if you look around you and see all of the people who add value to your life, no matter how big or small of an amount, you have something amazing. Even those who feel like you do not have a lot of people around you, you can open your eyes and seen that you have accomplishments to be proud of.
There will be something you’ve done which surprised others. Perhaps it isn’t related to an intelligence or career matter – you may have done something which shows others what a big and warm heart you have by offering a gesture of generosity or kindness.
Whatever you want to do in life, it’s your thing. It’s okay to change the position you want to work in your career. And it’s okay to get things wrong along the way. We all lose ourselves from time-to-time. But we find ourselves again.
I just want to be me. There’s nothing worse than false portrayals. Shouldn’t portrayals just be for television? We shouldn’t be representing ourselves just for the satisfaction of feeling better about ourselves. I don’t mean getting your hair styled at the hairdressers. I mean changing your personality to match someone else’s.
Self-love will make you realise how happy you can be
Some people struggle to see this, such as people who suffer from anxiety or other conditions. But it would be brilliant to see a world where everyone appreciates each other’s beauty and talents.
Never hate yourself because there’s been someone in your life who hasn’t liked or loved you.